Sex and emotions.

Sex and emotions.

Do they fit together? Some say no others say yes. Heres my point of view as you all know I love to give.

For me its always been both together. I cant have sex with someone and not have emotions involved, I don’t sleep around and I have no idea how people do that. I mean whats up with meeting someone in a bar and taking them home for a one night stand?? Ive never done that and I never will.

I can be a very emotional person, I kind of like that about me. I care about others and usually put them before myself and that even extends to the bedroom.  Recently I found closure that has let me open my heart back up again and its scary for me but its also a huge relief. I can now move on and let myself fall again, and I think I am.

Some of the guys ive talked to say that they are separate and that sex is just sex and that no emotions need be involved…I don’t buy that but im also the one who has never had a one night stand or had a friend with benefits merely for the sake of having someone around for sex. Maybe this is TMI but if I want sex or have an urge im no saint and know how to deal with it myself without a man around.   

I think females are more emotional and that we need the connection during sex with the emotions and all of that good gushy stuff. Nothing wrong with that if it’s what makes us tick. I know im not ashamed of it and  I don’t ever see me changing my ways this late in life.

So im curious, what are your thoughts on this topic??? Please chime in im curious. 

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 i love to game and i love WoW and im wanting to learn Pathfinder as well. i guess im kind of a boring person. i dont see myself as intelligent infact i see myself as pretty dumb on many things. i can do things but i do know one thing right now i miss my Daddy. i know he has other things to do besides dealing with me but today i kind of need him. Dealing with my ex is really taxing on me and im glad that i think ive made the last contact ever with him, making life hopefully less stressful and much simpler.

daddy is a whole different topic but hes good to me for the most part and the things in which we arent clicking at are just a matter of getting to know each other.

Hell, even my dog likes him and that normally doesnt happen, Bones is pretty picky when it comes to meeting people and liking them.

i spent much of my day knitting and watching movies when i wasnt freaking out. Thank goodness i have family who helped me through it all and i feel soo much better now.

my point of view on casual sex.

I was given an interesting topic today by a friend...casual sex. Something i dont do and have a good opinion of.

ive never met someone and just had casual sex. i find it meaningless and degrading. Now im not saying ive never stepped backwards and slept with an ex after a break up but i also thought it would end in us getting back together not like it usually does in me still being alone.

i think if i had to chose between casual sex or going without i will go without hands down each time.

i hear of people going to clubs, bars and parties just to hook up for sex and so many times it ends in STDs pregnancy or broken hearts. i just cant do that. i was raped when i was 20 and thats why i have a daughter and i cant imagine with how guilty i already feel if i had met him at a bar or something, instead he was supposedly a friend of a friends cousin who was too drunk to drive and i was helping the fucker get home safely. i should have let him walk, and if ever faced with that decision again the man will walk.

As for the whole man vs. woman thing on casual sex i really think its equal and that both sexes do the same things looking for the same results except maybe the girls are looking for a relationship a bit more.  That is those who arent already married and having affairs.

i will continue to stick it out and wait around for the right one and enjoy life on my own until what i want is found. No casual sex for this chic.